Who Plans The Wedding: Bride, Groom, Or Both?

Planning a wedding can be stressful, and it's even more difficult if you don't enjoy the process. Many brides feel that the wedding industry puts the focus on them, making it harder to introduce equality into the wedding planning process. This can make it feel like the wedding is all about the bride, rather than both the bride and groom. However, some brides choose to make the wedding planning process fun by incorporating a trip, for example.

Wedding planning can be stressful

One way to make wedding planning less stressful is to plan a trip around the wedding, so there is less focus on one day. For example, you could meet your planner for a few minutes in one of your favourite cities in the world and then enjoy a couple of days with friends.

Another way to reduce stress is to be aware of the gendered nature of the industry and try to introduce equality into the process. For example, vendors often target and reference only brides, so it's important to try to delegate pieces of planning to your partner.

Finally, it's important to remember that the wedding is about both the bride and the groom, and to try to make it a day that reflects both of your personalities and interests.

The wedding industry is gendered

Planning a wedding can be stressful, and it can be even more difficult when you realise that you don't enjoy it. The wedding industry as a whole puts the focus on the bride, making it harder to introduce equality into the wedding-planning process. This is especially true for LGBTQ+ couples, as many vendors target and reference only brides. This translates to how they communicate with couples, too. For example, women have reported that their partners were frequently left off vendor emails, or vendors would insist on checking in with the bride even when the planning was delegated to their partner.

This can make it feel like the wedding is all about the bride, and that it takes away from it being a day for both the bride and groom. Many brides feel that the wedding planning process is yet another way that women are saddled with the lion's share of unpaid labour. However, some couples have found ways to make the planning process more enjoyable, such as by planning a trip to one of their favourite cities and having the wedding there, so that the focus is not all on one day.

The bride does not always enjoy planning the wedding

Planning a wedding can be stressful, and it's even more difficult when you realise that you don't enjoy it. For many brides, the wedding planning process feels like yet another way women are saddled with the lion's share of unpaid labour. The wedding industry as a whole puts the focus squarely on the bride, making it even harder to introduce equality into the wedding planning process. Many women are surprised by how gendered the industry is, and vendors often target and reference only brides. This translates to how they communicate with couples, too. For example, vendors might insist on checking in with the bride even when the groom is involved in the planning.

However, there are ways to make wedding planning more enjoyable for the bride. One idea is to plan a trip around the wedding, so there is less focus on one day. For example, you could get married in one of your favourite cities in the world and enjoy a few days there with friends. This way, the wedding preparation doesn't feel like such a burden.

The wedding is about the bride and groom, not just the bride

Wedding planning can be stressful, and it can be even more difficult when you realise that you don't enjoy it. The wedding industry as a whole puts the focus on the bride, making it harder to introduce equality into the wedding planning process. Many brides feel that they are saddled with the lion's share of unpaid labour.

However, it's important to remember that a wedding is about the bride and groom, not just the bride. One bride shared her frustration at her fiancé's comment that the wedding is all about the bride, saying that it made it seem like it was taking away from it being their day.

To make wedding planning less stressful, some couples have chosen to plan a trip around their wedding, so that the focus is not just on one day. This can be a great way to have a wedding, as it gives the couple time together in one of their favourite cities in the world.

It's also important to be mindful of the language used by vendors, who may target and reference only brides. Couples can try to delegate pieces of planning to their partners, but vendors may insist on checking in with the bride even then.

Wedding planning can be a lot of unpaid labour for the bride

Some brides have reported that vendors will insist on checking in with them, even when tasks have been delegated to their partner. This can make it feel like the wedding is all about the bride, and take away from it being a special day for both partners.

One way to make wedding planning less stressful is to plan a trip around the wedding, so there is less focus on one day. For example, one bride met her planner for a few minutes while on a trip to Paris with friends, and was able to enjoy a couple of days in one of her favourite cities without focusing on wedding preparation.

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