Grooms Can Choose: Female Best Man?

It is becoming increasingly common for grooms to have female best friends or sisters as their 'best man' at their wedding. The female equivalent of a 'best man' is known as a 'best woman', 'groomsmaid', 'grooms-person', 'groomslady', 'groom's honour attendant', or 'man of honour'. The best rule of thumb is to talk to the person in the wedding party and decide on a term that you are both comfortable with.

There are a few things to consider when choosing a female best man, such as whether they would be comfortable performing a role traditionally held by a man, their attire, and whether the bride-to-be is comfortable with the choice. It is also important to include the best woman in all wedding events and activities, such as the bachelorette or bachelor party, and to ensure that they are comfortable with the sleeping arrangements during the pre-wedding trip.

Ultimately, the decision to have a female best man is a personal choice, and there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to gender roles in modern weddings.

What should a female best man be called?

When it comes to wedding planning, there are many things to consider, from decor to dinner, invitations, and wedding attire. But what if you want to break with tradition and have a female best man?

First of all, it's your wedding, so forget the traditional rules and do what you want! If your best friend is a woman and you want her to stand by your side on your big day, then go for it. It's the 21st century, after all.

Now, what should you call your female best man? Well, there are a few options to choose from:

• Best Woman
• Best Person
• Best Lady
• Best Maid
• Best Matron
• Groom's Attendant
• Groom's Maid of Honour
• Groomswoman
• Groomslady
• Groom's Right Honourable Señora & Mistress of Ceremonies
• Groom's Honour Attendant
• Or simply, your Best Dude

Ultimately, it's up to you and your friend to decide on a title that feels comfortable and fits your dynamic. You can even get creative and come up with a unique title that suits your relationship.

Remember, it's important to have a chat with your friend about their comfort level with the role and its traditional duties, such as planning the stag party or giving a speech. It's also a good idea to keep your partner in the loop and consider their feelings, especially if they might feel jealous.

When it comes to attire, there's flexibility too. Your female best man can wear a suit, a matching dress, or something else entirely. The key is to ensure it fits within your wedding's colour theme and that your partner is also happy with the choice.

So, go ahead and choose a title that suits your dynamic, embrace the flexibility, and make your wedding party truly inclusive and reflective of your closest relationships.

What should a female best man wear?

There are many options for what a female best man can wear. Ultimately, it is up to the best man to decide what they feel most comfortable wearing. If they feel most comfortable in a tuxedo or suit, there are female styles made to fit them perfectly. They can choose to have accessories that coordinate with the groomsmen, or match the maid of honour. If the best man prefers a dress, she can wear a dress in the same colour as the tuxedos or suits that the groomsmen are wearing. For example, if the groomsmen are wearing navy suits with wine accessories, she could wear a navy dress with burgundy shoes. Alternatively, she could wear a dress by the same designer as the bridesmaids but in a colour that matches the groomsmen.

Another option is to have the best man wear a dress in the same style as the bridesmaids but in a different colour, or with accessories to match the groomsmen. For example, if the bridesmaids are wearing maroon, the best man could wear a maroon dress, or a grey dress with maroon accessories.

If the groomsmen are wearing black tuxedos, the best man could wear a black dress, or a black version of the bridesmaids' dress.

If the bridesmaids are wearing short dresses, the best man could wear a long dress in the same colour as the groomsmen's tuxedos.

If the groomsmen are wearing suits, the best man could wear a suit in the same colour, or a dress in the same colour as the bridesmaids with accessories that match the groomsmen.

Ultimately, the best man should choose what they feel comfortable wearing, and what they feel best represents their role in the wedding party.

Should a female best man attend the bachelor party?

Ultimately, the decision of whether a female best man should attend the bachelor party is down to the couple and the best woman in question. It is important to communicate and be open to different options.

The female best man should be given the option to attend the bachelor party, but it is also important to understand if she would feel more comfortable at the bachelorette party or even both. She might be best friends with the groom and feel out of place at bridal appointments and showers with strangers.

If the best woman does attend the bachelor party, it is important to ensure that the accommodation is suitable and that she is comfortable with the activities.

There is also the option of a sten do, a joint celebration for the bride and groom, which could be a good alternative to traditional separate parties.

The key is to be flexible and open-minded. Discuss the options with the best woman and decide what is best for everyone involved.

What duties should a female best man perform?

A best man, regardless of gender, has a lot of duties and responsibilities to uphold. Here is a list of duties a female best man should perform:

Before the Wedding

• Provide moral support to the groom during the ring selection.
• Lead the groomsmen—introduce everyone and facilitate bonding.
• Shop for formalwear and coordinate the purchase. This includes assisting the groom in picking out everyone's attire and making sure that each groomsman orders their attire in a timely fashion.
• Serve as a counsellor and confidant—provide support and help the groom make decisions and solve problems throughout the planning process.
• Coordinate travel and accommodations for the groomsmen.
• Plan the bachelor party.
• Attend pre-wedding events, such as the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
• Create an emergency kit for the wedding day, including essential toiletries, a stain remover, sewing kit, and cash.
• Let the photographer know where the best woman should be placed in group photos.

During the Wedding

• Get dressed with the other groomsmen and the groom.
• Ensure the groomsmen are wearing their boutonnieres.
• Try to keep things on schedule.
• Hold the wedding rings until the couple's ring exchange.
• Stand next to the groom during the ceremony.
• Deliver the officiant's payment after the ceremony.
• Sign the marriage license as a witness.
• Pose for pictures.
• Stand next to the bride in the receiving line during cocktail hour.
• Be announced with the maid of honour for the reception entrance.
• Dance with the maid of honour during the first guest dance.
• Ensure the groom eats and drinks.
• Give a best man speech.
• Decorate the getaway car.

After the Wedding

• Help organise and safekeep gifts.
• Hand out vendor tips.
• Ensure groomsmen return rented attire.

Other Considerations

• The best woman should handle all the duties typically assigned to the best man, including standing with the groomsmen during the ceremony, planning the bachelor party, and walking in the processional alongside the maid or matron of honour.
• Let her choose her wedding day attire—she may prefer a tuxedo, a suit, or a dress that coordinates with the colour scheme of the wedding party.
• Don't assume your best woman wants to tag along with the bridal party. She might feel more comfortable hanging out with the groomsmen.
• Don't give her a label she hates—discuss and agree on a title that she feels comfortable with.

How should a female best man be introduced to the bride?

There are a few things to consider when introducing a female best man to the bride. Firstly, it is important to have a conversation with the friend about their comfort level with the role and its traditional duties, such as planning the stag and giving a speech. It is also crucial to communicate openly with the bride-to-be, keeping her in the loop about the choice of best man as early as possible. This can help address any potential jealousy or discomfort and ensure everyone is on the same page.

When it comes to attire, the female best man should be given the option to choose what they feel most comfortable wearing, whether it be a suit, a dress, or something else. The colour and style of their outfit can be coordinated with the groomsmen or the bridesmaids, depending on their preference and the wedding theme. It is worth noting that some people prefer the female best man to match the groomsmen to create a unified look, while others opt for contrasting colours to distinguish the bridal parties.

In terms of pre-wedding events, the female best man should be invited to all key moments and events that the rest of the bridal party will be attending. However, it is important to check in with them beforehand to ensure they feel comfortable and included. For example, they may prefer to attend the bachelorette party instead of the bachelor party or opt for a joint event with both parties.

On the wedding day, the female best man should be introduced to the bride as part of the bridal party, processing down the aisle and standing by the groom's side during the ceremony. They can be given a bouquet or a boutonnière to hold, coordinating with the rest of the wedding party.

Overall, the key is to communicate openly, be flexible, and ensure that everyone involved is comfortable and happy with the arrangements.

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