Honeymoon Wishes: How To Graciously Ask For A Wedding Honeymoon Fund

Many couples already live together before getting married and have everything they need for their home. For this reason, honeymoon funds are becoming increasingly popular. Honeymoon funds are cash gifts from wedding guests to newlyweds to help pay for their honeymoon.

If you are worried about how to ask for money, there are a few key things to remember. Firstly, it is best not to put your registry information on your wedding invitations. Instead, create a printed insert card that you can include as part of the invitation suite. You should also direct guests to your wedding website for more details. It is also important to remember that you should never expect gifts and that it is optional for guests to contribute.

Explain why you've chosen a honeymoon fund over physical gifts

We've decided to opt for a honeymoon fund over physical gifts because we want to prioritise experiences over things. We feel so fortunate to already have all the physical items we need for our home, and we would much prefer to create new, lifelong memories on our honeymoon. We want to share our first trip together as a married couple with our loved ones, and we would be so grateful for any contributions that will help make our honeymoon unforgettable.

We understand that some people may prefer to give physical gifts, and we completely appreciate that. However, we want to be honest about what we truly want and need, and we hope that you understand our wishes. We've chosen to be transparent about our preference for a honeymoon fund because we want to ensure that we are only gifted things that we will use and appreciate.

We know that some people may have concerns about the cost, especially during difficult economic times. We want to emphasise that any contribution, no matter how big or small, is greatly appreciated and will go towards making our honeymoon an even more special experience. We also want to assure you that we will be setting up our honeymoon fund online, which is a convenient and safe way to give.

We hope that you understand our decision and feel excited about being a part of our honeymoon experience. We are so thankful for your love and support, and we can't wait to celebrate with you!

Make it clear contributions are optional

When it comes to asking for contributions towards your honeymoon, it's important to make it clear that any donations are entirely optional. Here are some ways to do this:

Keep it Light-Hearted and Optional

It's a good idea to be honest and light-hearted in your request, making it clear that contributing is optional. Try to connect with your audience (your friends and family) and add a personal touch to make everyone feel comfortable. You could say something like:

> "If you choose to give us a gift, we'd be so grateful for cash or online contributions towards our dream honeymoon in [destination]. We know that not everyone can contribute, and that's okay! Your presence at our wedding means the world to us."

Make it Clear that it's Not Expected

It's important to remember that gifts are never expected, and it's fantastic when people can contribute. You could say:

> "We know that not everyone can afford to give, and that's okay! We're so happy to be celebrating with you, and we appreciate any contributions you're able to make towards our honeymoon."

Be Gracious and Express Gratitude

Expressing gratitude and making it clear that you understand not everyone will be able to contribute can go a long way. Try something like:

> "We are so grateful for your love and support, and we know that many of you will be travelling far to be with us. We are humbled by your presence at our wedding and truly appreciate any contributions you're able to make towards our honeymoon."

Focus on the Experience

If you want to emphasise that you value their presence over any gifts, you could say:

> "Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift we could ask for. However, if you wish to contribute to our special day, we have set up a honeymoon fund. We understand that not everyone will be able to, and that's absolutely fine! We just want to share this happy day with you."

Be Direct and Honest

Being direct and honest is always a good approach. You could simply say:

> "We are so excited to celebrate our wedding with you all, and we hope you can make it! If you are thinking of giving us a gift, we would be incredibly grateful for any contributions towards our honeymoon. We know that not everyone will be able to, and that's absolutely fine—please don't feel any obligation."

Be honest and use your own voice

Asking for money instead of gifts can be a daunting task, but it's important to remember that it's becoming more common for couples to opt for honeymoon funds. When it comes to being honest and using your own voice, here are some tips to keep in mind:

Be Yourself

Make sure your wording has your own unique flair so that it's instantly recognisable as you. If you're an entertaining duo, throw in an icebreaker or a joke. Otherwise, keep it honest and straight to the point. It's also a good idea to focus on why your honeymoon will be so special to you and your partner—after all, that's what guests are contributing towards.

Keep It Light-Hearted and Optional

Most people appreciate honesty, and many will be able to relate to the costs of a wedding and honeymoon. Try to connect with your guests and add a personal touch to make everyone feel comfortable. It's also important to make it clear that contributing to your honeymoon fund is completely optional and up to the guest.

Provide Details

Explain the details of your dream vacation without being too wordy. Add short summaries to any experiences or destinations you're considering. You can also ask for ideas and include a section for people to suggest their own honeymoon recommendations.

Be Direct

The more direct you are with your wording, the more likely people will want to contribute because they feel like they're helping to make something concrete happen. For example, if you're hoping for a plush hotel room with an in-room jacuzzi, let your guests know.

Collaborate

Have your partner proofread your wording or write it with you. Two sets of eyes are usually better than one, and it's a great way to ensure that your request represents both of you.

Be Mindful of Etiquette

While it's acceptable to set up a honeymoon fund for your wedding registry, it's important not to come across as money-hungry. Share your information in the same way as traditional registries, and avoid putting your registry information on your wedding invitations. Instead, include it on your wedding website and shower invitations.

Provide specific details about your honeymoon plans

We're off to [destination] for our honeymoon, and we're so excited to share our plans with you! We'll be staying in a plush hotel with a room that has an in-room jacuzzi. We plan to spend our days lounging by the pool, sipping cocktails, and soaking up the sun. In the afternoons, we might explore the local area and immerse ourselves in the culture, sampling the local cuisine and picking up some souvenirs. In the evenings, we'll dress up for romantic dinners and enjoy the hotel's entertainment. We can't wait to relax and spend some quality time together after the wedding.

We've always dreamed of visiting [destination] and are so grateful to be able to turn this dream into a reality for our honeymoon. We've included some of the specific experiences and activities we're looking forward to on our honeymoon fund registry, and we would be delighted and grateful if you chose to contribute to any of these.

We're looking forward to the local food tour, where we'll get to sample authentic dishes and learn about the region's culinary history. We also plan to take a sunset cruise, which will offer breathtaking views and a chance to unwind after our wedding celebrations. Another experience we're eager to try is the hot air balloon ride, which will provide a unique perspective of the area and create lasting memories.

We're thrilled to be able to share these plans with you, and we appreciate your support in making our honeymoon dreams come true. Whether you contribute to our fund or not, we are thankful for your presence in our lives and at our wedding.

Include your registry information on your wedding website and shower invitations

It is considered good etiquette to include your registry information on your wedding website and shower invitations. You can write a personal note or use a honeymoon fund poem. You can also keep it simple and just share the link.

• "In lieu of gifts, please consider making a contribution to our honeymoon fund."
• "We can't wait to celebrate with you. Instead of gifts, we would appreciate a contribution to our honeymoon fund."
• "We would love to create lifelong memories, instead of receiving physical gifts. Please consider making a contribution to our honeymoon fund."
• "We are fortunate enough to already have all the physical items we need for our home. Instead, please contribute to our honeymoon fund to help us experience the trip of a lifetime."
• "We're planning an exciting adventure! Instead of physical gifts, please consider contributing to our honeymoon fund."
• "In lieu of wedding gifts, the couple would appreciate a contribution towards their honeymoon fund: www.honeyfund.com/wedding/couplesname"
• "The couple is registered for their honeymoon and would appreciate contributions at www.honeyfund.com/wedding/couplesname"
• "In place of wedding gifts, we'd love to receive honeymoon experiences from our online registry: www.honeyfund.com/wedding/couplesname"
• "Honeymoon Fund: www.honeyfund.com/wedding/couplesname"
• "Registered at www.honeyfund.com/wedding/couplesname"

When including your registry information, it is important to write in your own voice and keep your wording light-hearted, optional, and honest. You can also add some humour or a personal touch to make guests more comfortable. It is also a good idea to explain why you have chosen a honeymoon fund and to let guests know that contributing is completely optional.

If you are unsure what to write, you can include a simple link to your honeymoon registry and let that do the talking.

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