The Role Of Flower Girls: A Guide For Wedding Websites

A flower girl is a special member of your wedding party and deserves an introduction on your wedding website. She is usually a young daughter of a friend or relative, happy to play a part in your wedding. She walks down the aisle after the bridesmaids but before the bride, holding a basket of rose petals or other flowers, scattering them on the floor.

You can include a short bio for your flower girl on your wedding website, perhaps mentioning how you know each other, her age, and why you chose her to be your flower girl. You could also include some fun facts, such as her hobbies and interests, and what she will be wearing.

If you have more than one flower girl, you can include a group bio, mentioning how they are related to you and why you chose them.

How to ask her

Asking a little girl to be your flower girl is a special moment and one that she will likely remember for a long time. Here are some ideas for how to ask her:

Ask Permission from Her Parents First

Even if the girl is your niece or the daughter of a close friend, it's important to get permission from her parents before you ask her. This is a courteous thing to do and it's also a great way to find out more about your potential flower girl, such as her likes, dislikes, and current mood. This will help you plan the right type of proposal.

Explain Her Duties

It's helpful to explain to the girl what a flower girl does and what will be expected of her during the wedding. This will make her feel included and important. Typical flower girl duties include posing for photos, walking down the aisle in front of the bride, carrying a basket with flower petals (or other items) to toss, and dancing at the reception.

Describe the Wedding

You can also get her excited by describing the wedding, including the decor, activities, and cake. If you have a wedding website, show it to her so she can get a sneak peek at the colors and venue.

Ask Her in a Special Way

There are many fun and creative ways to pop the question to your flower girl. Here are some ideas:

• Give her a floral crown, either by itself or with a note attached.
• Make a puzzle with a message asking her to be your flower girl.
• Give her a book about flower girls or create a personalized story that ends with the question.
• Get down on one knee and propose with a ring pop.
• Use confetti-filled balloons, with the question hidden in one of them.
• Present her with a gift box or bag that includes items related to your wedding theme, such as sunglasses, seashells, and flip flops for a beach wedding, or glittery bath bombs and pine cones for a winter wedding.
• Take her out for a lunch date and pop the question there.
• Give her a stuffed animal that holds a card or has "flower girl" embroidered on it.
• Ask her with a confetti popper, either by putting the message on the outside or hiding it inside.
• If she's an aspiring artist, give her a custom poster she can color in to reveal your message.
• Give her a pair of "magical" sunglasses that will keep her safe while she walks down the aisle.

Her role and duties

A flower girl is a very important member of your wedding party. She is usually the daughter of a friend or relative and is someone who is happy to play a part in your wedding. Her main duty is to charm the guests, leaving them smiling from ear to ear. Some flower girls are shy and walk timidly down the aisle, while others meticulously place each petal in the 'perfect' spot for the bride. Mostly, they're there to set a cute tone for the bride to walk down the aisle.

Flower girls usually walk down the aisle after the bridesmaids but before the bride, carrying a basket of rose petals or other flower petals, which they scatter on the floor. They will then either stand with the rest of the bridal party or rejoin their parents to sit and watch the rest of the ceremony.

Flower girls traditionally scatter rose petals, but they can carry anything from colourful balloons to pinwheels or a bottle of bubbles to blow as they walk down the aisle.

Flower girls are usually aged between three and nine. If you have a large family or a bunch of nieces, it might be a good idea to include everyone to avoid anyone feeling left out. If you decide to include several little attendants in your bridal party, you can ask one flower girl to walk with you and carry your train, while another helps escort a beloved pet down the aisle. They can hold hands as they walk or opt for a wagon ride with the eldest flower girl pulling the littlest ones.

The flower girl's dress is usually similar to the bride's gown, but it can also mirror the bridesmaids' dresses. The mother of the flower girl traditionally pays for the dress, while the couple or the bride's parents cover the cost of the flowers, basket and anything else the flower girl might need.

Her outfit

The flower girl's outfit is an important part of the wedding and can be used to make a statement. Traditionally, flower girls wear dresses that resemble the bride's gown. However, it has become more common in recent years to have them wear dresses that mirror the bridesmaids' outfits, incorporating similar prints or colours.

When it comes to the style of the dress, flower girls often wear mini versions of the bridesmaids' dresses, or unique dresses that complement the bridal party's style. For example, if the bridal party is wearing bright colours, the flower girl might wear a bright-coloured dress as well. The length of the dress is also important to consider, with shorter dresses being more suitable for younger flower girls.

In addition to the dress, flower girls often wear special hair accessories such as flower crowns or flower headbands, which can be used to match the wedding's theme and colours. For a bohemian wedding, a flower crown is a must-have accessory.

Flower girls' shoes are also an important part of their outfit. Neutral colours like white and beige are traditional, but you can also choose shoes that match the colour palette of the wedding.

• A full tulle skirt with a ballerina flats
• A dress with a big bow
• A lace dress with elegant lace sleeves and a high neck
• A floral dress with a simple cut and design
• A boho dress with lace, frills, and a whimsical design
• A long-sleeved dress for a touch of luxury and elegance

Gifts for her

A flower girl is a very important member of your wedding party, and she deserves a gift that reflects that! Here are some thoughtful gift ideas for the flower girl in your wedding:

A Special Keepsake

A gift that she can treasure long after the wedding is a wonderful way to show your appreciation. Consider getting her a sustainable water bottle, a stuffed animal, a necklace or charm bracelet with "Flower Girl" stamped on a heart, or a pillow with "Flower Girl" embroidered on it. You could also get her a piece of jewellery to say thank you, such as a necklace or bracelet.

A Fun Activity

If your flower girl is an aspiring artist, consider getting her a custom poster she can colour in, complete with a new pack of crayons, markers, or coloured pencils. You could also get creative and make your own puzzle with a simple kit from a craft store. Decorate the puzzle with your wedding colours and write a sweet message asking her to be your flower girl.

A Flower Crown

A flower crown is a lovely way to propose to your flower girl and get her excited about wearing a similar crown on your big day. You can hand it to her along with your request or attach a note to the crown. She will love wearing it and feeling like a princess!

A Lunch Date

Take your flower girl out for a special lunch date and pop the question there. Whether it's a fancy or casual outing, she will likely appreciate spending quality time with you and feeling included in your plans.

A Personalised Gift Box

Curate a gift box with items that reflect your wedding theme. For example, if you're having a beach wedding, include sunglasses, seashells, flip-flops, and a lei. If your wedding has a rustic theme, opt for chocolates tied with twine, delicate flowers, stickers, and a cute note.

Remember, the gift doesn't have to be expensive or extravagant. A small token of your appreciation, such as a doll, a personalised gift box, or a book, will surely delight your flower girl and create a lasting memory of your special day.

Her relationship to the couple

Flower girls are often nieces, cousins, or daughters of close friends. They are usually between three and eight years old, but can be younger or older, depending on their ability to walk down the aisle.

Our flower girl is a special member of our wedding party and holds a meaningful place in our lives. She is the [insert name]'s [insert relation to the couple] and we are so happy to have her be a part of our special day.

We first met [name of flower girl] [number] years ago when [explain the circumstances of how you met]. Since then, she has become an integral part of our lives and we have shared so many wonderful experiences together.

One of our favourite memories with [name of flower girl] was when [explain a fun anecdote or experience you have shared]. She has such a wonderful sense of humour and always knows how to make us laugh, even in the most serious of moments. We also love her [list a few personality traits you adore about her] and feel so grateful to have her in our lives.

We are thrilled to have [name of flower girl] as our flower girl and can't wait to see the joy she brings to our wedding day.

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