Etiquette Guide: Back Of Wedding Invites

Wedding invitations are a crucial logistical element of your big day. While it's essential to include key details like the date, time, and location, there may be instances where you need to utilise the back of the invitation. Here's a guide to help you navigate what information you can put on the back of your wedding invitations.

Although it is generally recommended to include additional details on a separate card, some couples opt to use the back of the invitation for practical reasons or to maintain a simpler format. You can include your wedding website and RSVP information, especially if you prefer digital responses. However, be mindful that some guests might miss the details on the back, so consider adding a subtle instruction on the front, such as see reverse for details.

If your ceremony and reception are at the same venue, you can simply state Reception to follow on the front, and provide further details on the back. This approach ensures that guests have all the necessary information in one place.

Ultimately, the decision to use the back of the invitation depends on your personal preference and the amount of information you need to convey. Remember to proofread your invitations thoroughly and consider the readability of your chosen format.

RSVP and website information

RSVP cards are a crucial part of your wedding invitation suite. They provide guests with a convenient way to respond to your invitation and help you keep track of your guest list and numbers for catering. It is considered good etiquette to include a separate RSVP card with a pre-addressed and stamped envelope to make it easy for your guests to respond. On the RSVP card, include a deadline for responses, usually two to four weeks before the wedding, and a line for guests to write their names. You may also include meal choices or other relevant information.

Alternatively, you can direct guests to RSVP through your wedding website, which is a more eco-friendly and cost-effective option. However, it is considerate to offer a paper RSVP option as well for less tech-savvy guests.

Speaking of wedding websites, this is another essential component of your wedding invitations. Your wedding website is the perfect place to include important and detailed information for your guests, such as accommodation suggestions, travel and transportation information, dress code, registry details, and more. Be sure to include your wedding website address on your save-the-date cards and invitations, and consider adding a QR code for easy access.

When it comes to the design of your invitations, you have a few options. Traditionally, each event (the ceremony, reception, etc.) gets its own card, but this can be costly and cumbersome for your guests. A more modern approach is to include all the essential information on a single card, with the option of additional insert cards for extra details. If you choose to go this route, be sure to clearly direct guests to any information on the back of the invitation, as some guests may not think to look there.

Finally, don't forget the practical details. Assemble your invitations with care, considering the weight of your stationery and ensuring you have the correct postage. Include a return address on the back flap of the envelope so that you can receive responses and avoid any invitations getting lost in the mail.

Map and venue details

Including a map on your wedding invitation is a thoughtful way to ensure your guests can easily find your venue. Here are some tips for including map and venue details on your wedding invitations:

Map Details:

• Hiring a designer to create a custom map for your invitation is an option, but it can be expensive. A more cost-effective approach is to create your own map using Google Maps and image editing software.
• To create a custom map using Google Maps, search for your venue address, adjust the zoom level to include the desired area, and use the "Snipping Tool" to capture a screenshot of the map. Save the screenshot as a JPEG image, which you can then insert into your invitation layout.
• You can also print out the map or use tracing paper to create a simple illustration of the area, including freeways and streets. Add your venue's address and an icon to mark the location. Scan the map and save it as a JPEG, or adjust the sizing at a copy shop.
• Consider adding touches of your wedding theme, such as flowers or leaves, to the edges of your map.
• Use muted colours for a timeless look, or add a bit of colour to highlight important locations. Watercolour paint can create a soft, feminine look.
• For a destination wedding, consider mapping out points of interest that guests may enjoy visiting.
• Include helpful street names, especially if there are multiple venues in the area.
• Add a techie touch with QR codes to help guests locate the venues easily.

Venue Details:

• In addition to the map, provide the name and address of the venue. For formal weddings, spell out the state name in full.
• If the ceremony and reception are at the same location, you can simply state, "Reception to follow" or "Dinner and dancing to follow."
• If the reception is at a different location, include a separate reception card with the event details.
• Provide extra venue information, such as parking instructions or transportation options, on an insert card or your wedding website.

Remember to include a clear indication that there are details on the back of the invitation, such as "See reverse for details" or "Reception details on reverse." This will ensure that your guests don't miss any important information.

Dress code

The dress code can be included on the wedding invitation itself, or on a separate information card. It is usually placed at the bottom of the invitation, following the details of the date, location, and time.

White Tie

"White Tie Celebration: Please join us in your most royal formalwear."

"We ask that men wear tailcoats and women wear floor-length evening gowns or ball gowns. Top hats and gloves are encouraged."

Black Tie

"A Formal Affair: Our venue requires Black Tie attire."

"Black-tie. We ask that men wear a tuxedo and women wear a floor-length gown."

Black Tie Optional

"Black Tie Optional: Formal attire is suggested."

"Black-tie optional. We ask that men wear a tuxedo or a dark suit and tie and women wear an evening gown or midi or knee-length cocktail dress."

Creative Black Tie

"Creative Black Tie: Formalwear is suggested, with some flare."

Cocktail Attire

"Cocktail Attire: Elegance encouraged."

"Cocktail attire. We suggest that men wear a suit or dress shirt with a tie and women wear a midi or knee-length dress or dressy separates."

Semi-Formal Attire

"We can’t wait to celebrate with you in your daytime Semi-Formal attire."

"We ask that you wear semi-formal attire such as a cocktail-length dress or dressy separates for women and a suit and tie for men. Please note that the venue does not permit blue jeans or sneakers."

Dressy Casual Attire

"Comfort Encouraged: Our celebration will be Dressy Casual."

"We want you to be comfortable at our wedding. The dress code is dressy casual attire. For this time of year in California, may we suggest the following attire: Women: sundresses, lightweight separates and flats or wedge heels for the outdoor ceremony on the lawn. Men: light dress shirt with khaki or other lightweight slacks; jackets and ties optional."

Casual Attire

"Casual attire is welcome at our wedding."

Additional events

If you're planning additional events for your wedding, it's a good idea to include a separate itinerary card with your wedding invitation. This card should list the date, time, and location of each event, and can be sent out with your wedding invitations or included in wedding welcome bags. Here are some tips for what to include on your additional events card:

Welcome Drinks

If you're hosting a welcome drink event, include the date, time, and location on your additional events card. You may also want to indicate if there will be any food served, and whether guests can bring guests.

After-Party

For an after-party, include the date, time, and location on your card. You may also want to mention if there is a specific dress code or theme for the after-party, and whether guests are expected to RSVP separately for this event.

Day-After Brunch

If you're planning a day-after brunch, include the date, time, and location on your card. You may also want to mention if this event is only for a certain group of people, such as family or the wedding party.

Rehearsal Dinner

The rehearsal dinner is usually a more intimate event for the wedding party and close family. If you're inviting guests outside of this circle, be sure to include an additional events card with the date, time, and location, and any other relevant information.

Other Activities

If there are other activities during the wedding weekend that guests are invited to, such as a bridal brunch or golf outing, be sure to include these on your additional events card as well. List the date, time, and location, and any other relevant details for each activity.

Remember to consider the design and wording of your additional events card to ensure it matches the style and tone of your wedding invitations. You may also want to include a wedding website URL on the card so guests can easily access more information.

Accommodation suggestions

When it comes to wedding invitations, it's important to provide your guests with all the information they need to celebrate with you. While the front of the invitation is reserved for key details like the date, time, and location of the ceremony and reception, the back of the invitation can be used to provide additional information, such as accommodation suggestions for out-of-town guests. Here are some ideas for what to include in the "Accommodation suggestions" section:

Hotel Recommendations:

It is a thoughtful gesture to provide a list of recommended hotels for your guests, especially if they are travelling from out of town. You can include a range of options to suit different budgets and preferences. It is also a good idea to include the contact information and address of each hotel, as well as any special rates or blocks of rooms that you have reserved for your guests. Here is an example:

"We have reserved a block of rooms at the following hotels for the wedding night. Please make your reservations by [date] and be sure to mention the [your last name] wedding when booking."

Special Wedding Rates:

If you are having a destination wedding or many of your guests are travelling from out of town, you can often negotiate special rates with hotels. Be sure to include this information on the invitation, along with the deadline for booking to receive the discounted rate. Here is an example:

"A special rate of [discounted rate] per night has been arranged for our guests at the [name of hotel]. Please call [hotel phone number] to make your reservation and be sure to mention the [your last name] wedding."

Wedding Website:

Instead of including all the accommodation details on the invitation, you can provide a link to your wedding website, where guests can find more information. This helps to keep the invitation concise and avoids overwhelming your guests with too much information. Here is an example:

"For more information about travel and accommodations, please visit our wedding website: [website address]"

Directions and Maps:

If your wedding venue is in an unfamiliar location or somewhere that your guests may have trouble finding, it is helpful to include directions or a map on the invitation. This ensures that your guests can easily find their way to the ceremony and reception. You can also include driving directions or public transport options for guests who are not familiar with the area.

In summary, the back of your wedding invitation is a great place to provide accommodation suggestions and other practical information for your guests. By including hotel recommendations, special rates, a link to your wedding website, and directions or maps, you can ensure that your guests have all the information they need to celebrate with you on your special day.

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