Vanessa's Absence: Jared's Wedding Mystery

Vanessa Grimaldi was not invited to the wedding of Jared Haibon and Ashley Iaconetti, both former Bachelor Nation stars. On an episode of her podcast, Help! I Suck at Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared, Grimaldi learned that she was not invited to the wedding. Grimaldi was initially heartbroken but took the news in stride, saying that she was happy for the couple and respected their decision. However, she later broke down sobbing, expressing her sadness and assuming that the reason for her exclusion was because her ex-fiancé, Nick Viall, was a groomsman at the wedding.

Vanessa's ex, Nick Viall, is a groomsman at the wedding

Vanessa Grimaldi was not invited to the wedding of Jared Haibon and Ashley Iaconetti. On an episode of her podcast, Help! I Suck at Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared, Grimaldi learned from her co-host and fellow Bachelor Nation star Jared Haibon that she is not invited to his wedding.

Grimaldi's ex-fiancé, Nick Viall, is one of the groomsmen at the wedding. Viall commented on Instagram, saying: "Huh?? That person isn't me. Ashley and Jared's wedding is Ashley and Jared days. Looking forward to enjoying the day with them and everyone they want to celebrate it with."

Grimaldi responded to the news with heartbreak and sadness. She said: "I'm just sad. I totally get it... I mean I assume, I mean, I understand and I guess, I don't want to make an ass of myself by making an assumption, but I assume it's because of a particular person and I get that, and like I said, I'm not mad, I'm not anything, I'm mostly just sad."

Vanessa and Jared co-host a podcast together

Vanessa Grimaldi and Jared Haibon co-host a podcast together called "Help! I Suck at Dating with Dean". On one episode, Grimaldi learned that she was not invited to Haibon's wedding to Ashley Iaconetti. Grimaldi's ex-fiancé, Nick Viall, was going to be a groomsman at the wedding. Understandably, Grimaldi was upset by the news and broke down sobbing. She assumed that she wasn't invited because of her ex-fiancé, but Viall denied this, saying he had "no problem with anyone that Ashley and Jared want to be at their wedding".

Despite the drama, Grimaldi maintained a supportive attitude towards the couple, saying, "I want an absolutely amazing wedding day for you guys, and if that means me watching from afar, then, like, that’s what it is". Haibon defended his decision, saying that he had to be "selfish" about his wedding and that the negative publicity surrounding the situation was affecting their families.

The podcast episode caused a lot of backlash for Haibon and Iaconetti, with some people calling them "gross and immature" and accusing them of using Grimaldi's reaction for publicity. However, others defended Haibon's response as "appropriate and fair" and argued that the whole situation was blown out of proportion.

Vanessa and Jared had previously dated

Vanessa Grimaldi and Jared Haibon had previously dated, and were even engaged to be married. However, the couple called off their engagement five months after the proposal. Grimaldi went on to date Nick Viall, another former flame of Jared's, and the two were engaged for a time.

In 2019, Haibon announced his engagement to Ashley Iaconetti, and it was revealed that Grimaldi was not invited to the wedding. This caused some drama, as Grimaldi was a co-host with Haibon on the podcast "Help! I Suck at Dating". On an episode of the podcast, Grimaldi learned she was not invited to the wedding, and broke down sobbing. She assumed it was because her ex-fiancé, Viall, would be a groomsman at the wedding. However, Viall denied this, saying he had no problem with Grimaldi not receiving an invitation.

Despite the drama, Grimaldi wished the couple well, saying, "I want an absolutely amazing wedding day for you guys, and if that means me watching from afar, then, like, that’s what it is." Haibon defended his decision, saying that he needed to be selfish about his wedding and that the negative publicity surrounding the situation was affecting their families.

Vanessa was informed she wasn't invited during a recording of their podcast

During a recording of their iHeartRadio podcast, "Help! I Suck at Dating with Dean, Vanessa and Jared", Vanessa Grimaldi was informed by her co-host and fellow Bachelor Nation star Jared Haibon that she was not invited to his wedding to Ashley Iaconetti. The news came as a shock to Grimaldi, who had to process the information on air.

Grimaldi initially inquired about her invitation status after Haibon and fellow co-host Dean Unglert discussed the fellow Bachelor Nation stars who were going to be groomsmen, including Grimaldi's ex-fiancé, Nick Viall. Haibon's response to Grimaldi's question was evasive, stating that they were "going through the guest list" and "figuring everything out".

Despite her efforts to remain composed, Grimaldi eventually broke down in sobs. She expressed her sadness and assumption that the decision was due to her ex-fiancé's presence at the wedding. She also emphasised her support for the couple and her understanding of their choice, demonstrating her emotional vulnerability and desire to maintain her friendship with Haibon and Iaconetti.

The incident sparked mixed reactions from fans, with some criticising the handling of the situation and the potential negative impact on Grimaldi, while others speculated about the underlying reasons for the decision. Grimaldi's emotional response and the subsequent discussion about the wedding plans became a highly-publicised moment, attracting attention and commentary from various media outlets and Bachelor Nation fans.

Vanessa was initially told she would be invited

It seems that Vanessa Grimaldi was not invited to her Help! I Suck at Dating podcast co-host Jared Haibon's wedding to fellow Bachelor Nation star Ashley Iaconetti. On an episode of the podcast, Vanessa asked Jared, "Does this mean I'm not invited to the wedding?" to which he replied, "Can we all just settle down for a minute? We haven't even — we're going through the guest list right now. We're just figuring everything out."

However, according to one source, Jared had previously told Vanessa that she would be invited to the wedding. This source claims that Vanessa was initially told she would be invited, but later found out on the podcast episode that she would not be. This has caused some backlash, with some people calling Jared's behaviour "super sad" and "tacky".

In response to the situation, Jared stated, "Vanessa and I talked about it. And I think a lot of people just misunderstood and I think it was just a little bit of a trigger for me, because it’s dealing with something that’s very personal... If there’s any point in my life to be selfish, I think I’m allowed to be selfish about the wedding." He also mentioned that the drama surrounding the situation "bothers" him because it affects the couple's families.

Despite initially appearing to take the news well, Vanessa later broke down sobbing on the podcast. She assumed that the reason for her not being invited was because her ex-fiancé, Nick Viall, was a groomsman at the wedding. However, Nick denied this, commenting via Instagram, "Huh?? That person isn't me. Ashley and Jared's wedding is Ashley and Jared days. Looking forward to enjoying the day with them and everyone they want to celebrate it with."

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