The Runaway Groom: When Mr. Big Leaves The Wedding Party Waiting

In the first *Sex and the City* movie, Mr. Big leaves Carrie at the altar. After a four-year relationship, the couple decide to get married and begin planning a small, intimate wedding. However, the wedding soon becomes a large, lavish affair, which makes Mr. Big uncomfortable. On the morning of the wedding, Mr. Big calls Carrie, seeking reassurance, but she misses his calls. When she arrives at the venue, he is nowhere to be seen. As she gets back into the car, he tries to call again, but it's too late. He leaves, but quickly realises his mistake and tries to turn around. As their cars pass each other, they stop, and a heartbroken Carrie hits him with her bouquet.

Mr Big's fear of commitment

Mr. Big's fear of commitment is a central theme in "Sex and the City". His character is defined by his inability to commit to Carrie, despite their obvious chemistry and connection. This fear of commitment manifests in several ways throughout the series and subsequent films.

Firstly, Mr. Big is portrayed as having a fear of emotional intimacy. He rarely lets Carrie into his heart and only expresses softness when he is already vulnerable, such as after undergoing surgery. His lack of emotional intelligence is positioned as a masculine trait, which is an outdated concept by today's standards. Mr. Big's commitment phobia is also linked to his perception of masculinity. He treats commitment as a negative thing and believes that it is a woman's job to convince him to commit. This dynamic is no longer seen as acceptable.

Mr. Big's fear of commitment also leads him to string Carrie along. He re-engages her just as she is ready to move on, bringing her back into the relationship, only to later back out again. This push-and-pull dynamic is a source of great frustration for Carrie. Additionally, Mr. Big's fear of commitment is evident in his inability to talk about the future. He avoids discussing the future of their relationship and is unwilling to take the next steps when the relationship progresses. This causes challenges in moving the relationship forward and making it last.

Mr. Big's fear of commitment is also reflected in his other relationships. He marries Natasha, who is perceived as "the perfect woman", but he is unable to commit to her as well. He has an affair with Carrie, demonstrating his inability to be fully invested in one person. Mr. Big's fear of commitment is a significant obstacle in his relationship with Carrie and is a recurring theme throughout the series and films. It is only in the later stages of the story that he begins to overcome his fear and commit to Carrie fully.

The wedding becomes too big

The wedding between Carrie and Mr. Big in the first *Sex and the City* movie starts off as a small and intimate affair but quickly spirals into a big, fancy, traditional wedding. The guest list grows, and the hunt for the perfect dress and vows begins. The night before the wedding, a lavish dinner is thrown for the couple, with decor more expensive than most people's weddings. Mr. Big, who is getting married for the third time, seems more concerned with how this will look.

Mr Big's previous marriages

Mr Big, or John James Preston, was married three times in total. His first wife was Barbara (Noelle Beck), a children's book publisher. They were divorced before the events of Sex and the City, with their marriage ending due to Mr Big's infidelity.

Mr Big's second wife was Natasha Naginsky (Bridget Moynahan), whom he married between seasons 2 and 3 of the show. Their marriage lasted less than a year, with Mr Big cheating on Natasha with Carrie.

Mr Big's third and final wife was Carrie Bradshaw, to whom he was married for 11 years. They married in the first Sex and the City movie, after Mr Big initially left Carrie at the altar due to cold feet.

Mr Big's fear of marriage

Mr. Big's fear of marriage is a central theme in the TV show and film *Sex and the City*. Mr. Big, whose real name is John James Preston, is a recurring character and the primary on-and-off love interest of the series' protagonist, Carrie Bradshaw.

Mr. Big is a mysterious, successful, and hugely affluent entrepreneur. His job is never explained, but his status as a "major tycoon, major dreamboat, and majorly out of [Carrie's] league" is alluded to in the show's dialogue. Despite his fear of commitment, Carrie falls in love with him, and their on-again-off-again relationship spans the show's entire run.

Mr. Big's fear of marriage is likely due to his emotional unavailability and the series of failed relationships he has experienced. He takes major emotional steps in his relationship with Carrie more slowly than she does, and his reserved communication on relationship issues creates frequent misunderstandings between them. Mr. Big's fear of marriage is so great that he leaves Carrie at the altar during their first wedding. However, they eventually reconcile and marry in a simple ceremony at City Hall.

Mr. Big's fear of marriage and commitment is a source of conflict and drama in the show, and it is only through his personal growth and evolution as a character that he is able to overcome his fears and commit to Carrie fully.

Mr Big's cold feet

Mr. Big's cold feet can be attributed to a few factors. Firstly, the wedding with Carrie Bradshaw was to be his third marriage, and he had expressed commitment issues in the past. He had previously been married twice, and his fear of commitment was a recurring theme in his relationship with Carrie.

Secondly, the wedding planning became more elaborate than he was comfortable with. What started as a small, intimate ceremony grew into a large, extravagant event, which may have contributed to his anxiety about the marriage.

Finally, on the night before the wedding, Mr. Big was lightly roasted by a friend about his latest marriage. This, combined with the growing wedding plans and his commitment issues, likely led to his cold feet and decision to leave Carrie at the altar.

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