Deborah Chan
Wedding gift registries are a great way to help your guests navigate the process of getting you a gift that is useful, practical and suited to your personal taste. Traditionally, couples relied on their wedding party and family members to inform guests about their wedding gift registry. Nowadays, the best ways to notify guests about registry information are on a wedding website, by word of mouth, or on a wedding shower invitation. It is considered impolite to include a direct mention of your registry on your wedding invitations. This article will provide some tips and examples for writing the perfect message for your wedding registry.
| Characteristics | Values |
|---|---|
| Tone | Gracious, helpful, authentic |
| Content | Direct mention of registry, link to registry, no pressure to bring a gift |
| Language | Formal, personalised, specific |
| Examples | "Having you attend our wedding is the greatest gift of all, so don't feel pressured to bring a package. However, if you're looking for wedding gift ideas, we've registered here for things that we need to outfit our home: [insert details]." |
| "We're moving in together for the first time after the wedding, so we've put together a gift registry of things we need to complete our home and celebrate our new life together. You can find our wish list under the 'Registry' section of our wedding website." | |
| "Jason and I appreciate all of your love and support! Your presence at our wedding is gift enough, though should you choose to get us a gift we are registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond (see below for link). We would also appreciate any help in achieving our dream of buying our first home in 2015." |
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What You'll Learn
Etiquette
When it comes to wedding registry etiquette, there are a few key things to keep in mind. Firstly, it is considered poor etiquette to include a direct mention of your registry on your wedding invitations. Instead, you can include the URL for your wedding website, where guests can find more details about the registry. Most wedding website templates offer a dedicated registry tab, which is the perfect place to list your registry information. This way, guests can actively choose to seek out your registry if they wish to buy a gift.
Another option for sharing your registry details is through word of mouth, particularly if you're having a smaller or more intimate wedding. You can let friends and family know where they can find your registry information when they ask about your wedding wishes. You can also post these details on social media or ask close friends and family to help spread the word.
When it comes to the wording of your registry, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. The language you use will depend on the style and tone of your wedding, as well as your personal preferences. However, it's important to strike the right tone and follow modern registry etiquette. Be mindful that receiving gifts is a privilege, not a right, so consider wording that conveys gratitude and avoids any sense of entitlement.
If you're hoping to receive cash gifts or donations to a charitable cause, it's best to say so explicitly. Many couples prefer cash gifts as they offer more flexibility, but some guests may prefer giving physical gifts. Be sure to mention this as well, providing clarity to your guests so they can purchase a gift that aligns with your wishes.
Finally, remember that your registry is just one aspect of your wedding planning. Don't agonize over every word, but focus on conveying your wishes clearly and concisely. A short and sweet message, such as "We have registered at [store name], and our registry number is [number]," can be a polite and effective way to share your registry details.
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Wedding website
Welcome to Our Wedding Website!
We are [Couple's names] and we are delighted to invite you to our wedding website! We are thrilled to be celebrating our special day with our nearest and dearest, and we hope that you will be a part of it.
Our Wedding Details
Here, you will find all the information you need about our wedding. This website includes details such as the date and location of the ceremony, the dress code, and accommodation options for guests. We have also included some photos of us and our story, for those who would like to know more about our journey together.
Our Wedding Registry
We know that many of you would like to buy us a wedding gift, and we are incredibly grateful for your generosity. We have put together a gift registry of things we need to complete our home and celebrate our new life together. You can find our wish list under the \"Registry\" section of our wedding website.
Having you attend our wedding is the greatest gift of all, so please do not feel pressured to bring a package. However, if you wish to give us a gift, we are registered at [store name], and our registry number is [#]. You can also shop online via the link below:
[Insert link]
Our Honeymoon Fund
We are also excited to share that we will be going on our dream honeymoon after the wedding! If you would like to contribute to this experience, we have set up a honeymoon fund where you can make a direct donation. We would be incredibly grateful for any help in making our first trip as a married couple unforgettable.
Thank you for your love and support, and we look forward to celebrating with you!
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No gifts
If you are opting for a "no gifts" approach to your wedding, here are some ideas for what to write on your wedding website or invitations:
"We are so grateful to be able to celebrate our special day with our nearest and dearest family and friends. Your presence is all we ask for and is truly present enough!"
"We are lucky to already have everything we need, and so we kindly request no gifts. If you do wish to honour us with a gift, a donation to our chosen charity/charities would be much appreciated."
"We kindly request no gifts, please. We are saving for a big move/project and so if you were thinking of giving us something, a contribution to our 'house fund' would be warmly welcomed. But really, your love and company on our wedding day are all we require!"
"We don't expect any gifts other than the pleasure of your company. However, cards with notes of wisdom, advice or amusing stories will become cherished keepsakes."
It's important to remember that it is considered bad etiquette to include a direct mention of your registry or gift preferences on your wedding invitations. Instead, keep your wording tactful, warm and appreciative, and direct guests to your wedding website for further details.
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Charity donations
Asking for charity donations instead of wedding gifts is a thoughtful gesture that allows you to give back to your community and support causes close to your heart. Here are some tips and examples to help you craft a message for your wedding registry:
Keep it Personal and Specific:
Share why the chosen charity or charities are meaningful to you as a couple. This can be the best way to get your guests on board with the idea. For example:
"As many of you know, we are passionate about supporting education for underprivileged children. In lieu of traditional wedding gifts, we would be grateful if you considered donating to [name of charity] to help make a difference in the lives of those less fortunate."
Provide Options:
Let your guests know that they have options, including the choice to donate to a specific charity, give a monetary gift, or contribute to your wishing well or honeymoon fund. For instance:
"Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all. However, if you wish to give something, we kindly request a donation to [name of charity], a cause very close to our hearts. Alternatively, we also have a honeymoon fund for those who prefer to contribute towards our dream vacation."
Keep it Light-hearted:
Asking for donations can feel awkward, so it's important to maintain a relaxed and light-hearted tone in your message. Avoid mentioning any costs associated with the wedding, and focus on the positive impact of the donations. Here's an example:
"We are so excited to celebrate our special day with all of you! As some of you may know, we have been working with [name of charity] and would love to continue supporting their amazing work. If you are considering giving a gift, we would be incredibly grateful for a donation to this wonderful cause."
Use a Catchy Poem:
A whimsical poem can be a fun way to convey your message. It adds a creative touch and makes your request more light-hearted. For example:
"On [wedding date], we will tie the knot,
And celebrate with those we love a lot.
Instead of gifts, we kindly ask,
A donation to [name of charity] to help our chosen cause."
Remember, while it's important to provide direction, guests are not required to donate to your chosen charity. Ensure your message conveys that their attendance at your wedding is the most precious gift, and they are free to choose how they want to celebrate your special day.
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Honeymoon fund
Asking for money towards a honeymoon fund instead of physical gifts can be tricky, but it is becoming more and more common. Here are some ideas for how to word your request in a way that feels authentic to you.
Formal
"We are truly grateful for the love and support of our cherished guests as we embark on this new chapter of our lives. In lieu of traditional gifts, we have chosen to plan the honeymoon of our dreams. Our wedding registry includes a honeymoon fund where you can contribute to personalised experiences such as excursions, meals, and spa days. Your generous contributions will help us create unforgettable memories as we begin our journey together."
Informal
"We can't believe the big day is almost here, and we're so excited to celebrate with all of you! We've already got all the household stuff we need, so we've decided to skip the traditional registry. Instead, we've set up a honeymoon fund. If you feel like gifting us, we'd be over the moon if you contributed to our unforgettable honeymoon. You can even choose specific gifts like romantic dinners, spa treats, or thrilling adventures."
Simple
"We've decided to elope and have an intimate, adventurous ceremony—just the two of us! While we won't be having a traditional wedding, we are planning an incredible honeymoon full of adventure. If you'd like to help us celebrate in spirit, we'd be grateful for contributions to our honeymoon fund to make this trip truly unforgettable!"
Lighthearted
"We've taken the leap and eloped! It was just us, the mountains, and the stars. We're now planning a honeymoon full of adventure, and if you'd like to support us in this exciting chapter, you can contribute to our honeymoon fund. Every little bit helps us create lasting memories together in a new destination."
Personal
"After our intimate elopement, we're excited to celebrate with our closest family and friends. Instead of a gift registry, we've created a honeymoon fund to help us embark on our next great adventure together. We're so grateful for your support and can't wait to share our experiences with you when we return."
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Frequently asked questions
It is considered bad etiquette to include a direct mention of your registry on your wedding invitations. Instead, you can notify your guests about your registry information on your wedding website, by word of mouth, or on a wedding shower invitation. You can also include registry or website links on invitation inserts or through virtual invites.
You can politely ask for cash instead of gifts by saying:
> "We know it's not traditional,/It's not the way it's done,/Instead of a wedding list,/We'd like a bit of sun./We've lived together quite a while,/And all the bills are paid./We've got our plates, our pots and pans/Our plans have all been made./So if you'd like to give a gift/To help us celebrate/Something towards our "honeyfund"/We would appreciate!"
You can communicate that gifts are not mandatory by saying:
> "Jason and I appreciate all of your love and support! Your presence at our wedding is a gift enough, though should you choose to get us a gift, we are registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond (see below for link). We would also appreciate any help in achieving our dream of buying our first home in 2015."
