Addressing Wedding Invitations: Etiquette Guide For Single Guests

Wedding invitation etiquette is a complex and nuanced topic. When it comes to addressing wedding invitations to single guests, there are a few guidelines to follow. For a single woman, Ms. is generally used if she is over 18, while Miss is used for those under 18. For a single man, Mr. is used if he is over 18, while no title is necessary for those under 18. If the guest identifies as non-binary, the honorific Mx. is often used. It is also important to consider whether the guest has a plus-one and to address the envelope accordingly.

Single female: Ms. for over 18s, Miss for under 18s

When addressing wedding invitations to single women, the appropriate title depends on their age. For women over the age of 18, use "Ms." and for women under the age of 18, use "Miss". It is recommended that you spell out these titles rather than abbreviating them as initials. For example, the outer envelope of an invitation to a woman over 18 would be addressed to "Ms. Stephanie Chen", while the inner envelope could be addressed to "Ms. Chen" or "Stephanie". If the invitee is under 18, the outer envelope would be addressed to "Miss Stephanie Chen", and the inner envelope could be addressed to "Miss Chen" or "Stephanie".

If the single female guest has been offered a plus one, you do not need to indicate this on the outer envelope. Instead, reserve "and guest" for the inner envelope only. For example, the outer envelope would be addressed to "Ms. Stephanie Chen", and the inner envelope could be addressed to "Ms. Chen and guest" or "Stephanie and guest".

Single male: Mr. for over 18s, no title needed for under 18s

When addressing wedding invitations to single males, the general rule is to use "Mr." if he is over 18. If the male guest is younger than 18, no title is necessary. Here are some examples to illustrate this:

Outer envelope (formal):

"Mr. James Montgomery"

Inner envelope (informal):

"Mr. Montgomery" or "James"

If the single male guest has been offered a plus-one, it is best not to indicate this on the outer envelope. Instead, use "and guest" language on the inner envelope:

Outer envelope:

"Mr. James Montgomery"

Inner envelope:

"Mr. Montgomery and guest" or "James and guest"

This approach allows for a more personalised and informal tone on the inner envelope, which is typically reserved for the recipients' names and can include first names only.

It is worth noting that wedding invitation etiquette has evolved to accommodate modern preferences. While the above guidelines provide a traditional framework, it is becoming increasingly common to forgo titles altogether and use first and last names or even nicknames on the inner envelope. This approach may be particularly relevant when addressing younger guests or those who prefer a less formal style.

Ultimately, the choice of how to address wedding invitations rests with the couple, and it is essential to use the guest's preferred title when known.

Single, non-binary: Mx

When addressing wedding invitations to single, non-binary guests, there are a few things to keep in mind to ensure your envelopes are both respectful and elegant.

Firstly, it is important to use the correct pronouns and titles. The gender-neutral title "Mx." is often used by non-binary individuals, and this can be a good default option if you are unsure of the guest's preferred title. However, it is always best to check with your guest beforehand to ensure you are using their correct and preferred title.

When addressing the outer envelope, the guest's title and full name are typically used. For example:

> Mx. Courtney Andrews

For the inner envelope, you have the option to be more informal. You can either use the guest's title and last name or just their first name, depending on your relationship and the desired level of formality. For example:

> Mx. Andrews

> or

> Courtney

If your non-binary guest is bringing a plus-one, it is best to include the plus-one's name on the envelope if you know it. On the outer envelope, you would include the plus-one's full name:

> Mx. Courtney Andrews

> Sam Li

On the inner envelope, you can simply write "and Guest" if you do not know the plus-one's name:

> Courtney and Guest

Remember, the most important thing is to respect your guest's identity and preferences. If you are unsure about the best way to address them, don't be afraid to politely ask. This will ensure that your guests feel welcomed and valued as they celebrate your special day with you.

Widowed female: Mrs. or Ms

When addressing a wedding invitation to a widowed woman, the traditional format is to use "Mrs." followed by the first and last name of her deceased husband (e.g., "Mrs. John Smith"). This is considered appropriate unless she has reverted to her maiden name or has remarried. If you are unsure, it is best to ask someone close to her which form of address she prefers.

However, it is essential to consider the widow's preferences and feelings. Using her own first name and married last name (e.g., "Mrs. Elizabeth Smith") can be more personal and honour her late spouse. Another option is to use "Ms." followed by her first and last name, which is appropriate regardless of marital status. This option may be preferred by widows who want to avoid being defined by their relationship to their late husbands.

When addressing the envelope, the outer envelope is typically more formal and includes full names and titles, while the inner envelope is less formal and may include only first names. For a widowed woman, you can use "Mrs." or "Ms." on the outer envelope, followed by her full name, and then use her first name or last name on the inner envelope.

Remember, the key is to make the widow feel comfortable and respected. If you are unsure about her preferences, don't hesitate to contact her and ask.

Divorced female: Mrs. or Ms

When addressing a wedding invitation to a divorced female guest, it is essential to use her preferred title and name. Here are some guidelines to help you with this:

• It is recommended to use "Ms." when addressing a divorced female guest. However, you can also use "Mrs." followed by her ex-husband's last name if she still uses it or her maiden name, depending on her preference. It is wise to ask someone close to her to confirm which name she prefers.
• When addressing the outer envelope, use the guest's full name, including their preferred title. For example, "Ms. Cookie Lyon."
• On the inner envelope, you can be less formal and use only her title and last name or just her first name if you are very close. For instance, "Ms. Lyon" or "Cookie."
• If the divorced female guest has been offered a plus-one, you can simply add "and guest" to the inner envelope. For example, "Ms. Lyon and guest."
• Avoid using abbreviations or initials in the address, except for recognised titles such as "Dr." for doctors.
• For a more modern approach, you may choose to omit titles altogether and use only the guest's full name on the outer envelope, especially if they do not identify as Mrs., Ms., Miss, or Mr.

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