The tradition of allowing someone to object at a wedding dates back to the 12th century when the Catholic Church introduced it as a way to ensure the legality of a union. At the time, it was challenging to verify the marital status of individuals from other towns, their ages, and their relation to each other. Thus, the ceremony would include the question: If any person here present knows of any lawful impediment to this marriage, they should declare it now. Lawful impediments could include the bride or groom being already married, the couple being too closely related, or one of the parties being forced into the marriage. In modern times, the tradition is fading, as legal issues are typically resolved before the wedding day. However, if someone objects during the ceremony, the officiant may pause the proceedings to address the objection privately or choose to ignore it and continue with the wedding.
Characteristics | Values |
---|---|
How to handle an objection | Pause the ceremony and have a private conversation with the objector |
Ask the objector to leave | |
Ignore the objection and continue the ceremony | |
Call the police if the objection is legitimate | |
Who can object | Anyone present at the wedding |
When to object | During the wedding ceremony |
Grounds for objection | Legal reasons, e.g. one party is already married or the couple is too closely related |
Emotional reasons, e.g. a guest's unending love for the groom | |
Moral reasons, e.g. the couple shouldn't be married | |
Who to notify in case of an objection | The officiant |
The couple | |
The authorities or the courthouse that issued the marriage license |
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The officiant will pause the ceremony
If the objection is minor and doesn’t have any legal standing, the officiant may even just keep going with the ceremony without pausing. However, if there is a legal reason behind the objection, the officiant cannot perform the registration of the wedding, and the marriage cannot take place.
The officiant has two widely agreed-upon options when dealing with an objection. The first is to take the objecting person to another room to privately give their reason for the objection. The second option is to ignore the objection and continue with the ceremony as normal, in which case the wedding guests usually deal with the objector and encourage them to leave.
If the objection is emotional rather than legal, it is up to the couple whether they wish to continue with the ceremony. The officiant may ask the couple if they are happy to proceed and, if so, the ceremony can continue with only a fleeting pause.
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The objector will be asked to leave
If someone objects at a wedding, the officiant will pause the ceremony and decide how to proceed. If the objection is minor and holds no legal grounds, the officiant may continue with the ceremony without pausing.
If the objection is more serious, the officiant may ask the objector to leave. This is what happened at a wedding officiated by Dee Pearson, a wedding officiant and owner of HeyDee Events. The couple informed her that the objector was an ex-partner of the groom, and asked for them to be escorted out by security.
In some cases, the officiant may take the objector aside to discuss their objection privately, and then ask them to leave. This is what Fr. Jason Lody, minister general of the Franciscan Community of Mercy, advises: "I would make sure the couple was okay and try not to draw any more attention to what just took place. I would assume there would be some intervention or support from others in attendance to remove the cause for disruption."
If the objector refuses to leave, it may be necessary to call the police, as this is then a legal issue.
It's worth noting that objections during wedding ceremonies are very uncommon. In most cases, any issues will be ironed out before the wedding day, as it is now easy to check public records to see if someone is already married or if the couple is too closely related.
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The couple will have a private conversation with the objector
If someone objects at a wedding, the couple may choose to have a private conversation with the objector. This conversation would typically take place in a separate room, away from the wedding guests, to discuss the objector's concerns.
During this conversation, the couple may want to thank the objector for sharing their concerns but reinforce their commitment to their partner and their decision to get married. For example, they could say something like, "We appreciate you sharing your concerns, but we feel differently." It's important to remember that the couple is not obligated to justify their decision to marry.
If the objector is not willing to move past their objection, the couple may need to ask them to leave the wedding ceremony. Ultimately, the couple has the final decision on whether to continue with the wedding or not.
It's worth noting that wedding objections are rare and usually don't carry any legal weight unless there is a valid legal reason why the couple cannot marry. In most cases, the officiant will simply pause the ceremony briefly to address the objection and then continue with the wedding.
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The officiant will ignore the objection and continue the ceremony
If someone objects during a wedding ceremony, the officiant has two options. They can either take the objector to another room to privately hear their reason for the objection or they can ignore the objection and continue with the ceremony.
If the officiant chooses to ignore the objection, the wedding guests will usually deal with the objector and encourage them to leave. While this may feel like an elephant in the room, the objection doesn't have to overshadow the couple's special moment.
The purpose of an objection is to assess the legal eligibility of a union, not the emotional. So, unless someone objects with a reason that holds substantial legal merit, the officiant can simply acknowledge the objection, realise that it carries no legal substance, and proceed with the wedding.
In the rare event that someone does object, it's usually for emotional reasons, which are ineffective at disputing a marriage's legal eligibility.
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The couple may decide not to continue with the wedding
If someone objects at a wedding, the couple may decide not to continue with the ceremony. This could be due to various reasons, such as the objection causing them to have doubts or suspicions, or legal issues that prevent them from continuing.
In the case of an objection, the wedding officiant may pause the ceremony and give the couple an opportunity to decide whether they wish to continue. If the objection is based on a legal issue, such as one of the parties being already married or the couple being too closely related, the wedding may not be able to proceed. In such cases, the officiant may be obligated to discontinue the service and refer the matter to the local authorities for investigation.
If the objection is not based on legal grounds but instead on emotional or moral grounds, the couple may still decide not to continue with the wedding. This could be due to the objection causing a significant disruption or affecting their decision to marry. In such cases, the officiant would need to respect the couple's wishes and not proceed with the ceremony.
It is important to note that objections during weddings are very uncommon, and the decision to continue or discontinue the ceremony ultimately rests with the couple. The officiant's role is to provide support and guidance, ensuring the couple's wishes are respected and their special day is handled with care.
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Frequently asked questions
The officiant will pause the ceremony and take the objector to another room to privately give their reason for the objection. If the objection is minor and doesn't have any legal standing, the officiant may continue with the ceremony without pausing.
Any objection must have a legal reason behind it. This could include the bride or groom being already married to someone else, the couple being too closely related, or one of the parties being forced into the marriage.
Objecting during the wedding ceremony can cause unnecessary drama and it most likely won't stop the wedding. If you have a valid reason for objecting, it's best to talk to the couple in private before the wedding instead.