Who Will Be The Chosen Bridesmaids?

In the episode The One with Phoebe's Wedding, Rachel and Phoebe pick bridesmaids. Monica is one of Phoebe's bridesmaids, alongside Rachel, but there is also a third mystery woman who has never been acknowledged. When one of Mike's groomsmen is unable to make it, Phoebe passes the decision of who gets to be in the wedding to Rachel as a bridesmaid job. Rachel is unable to decide between Ross and Chandler, so Mike decides to have his dog, Chappy, as the missing groomsman.

Phoebe's wedding to Mike

In the episode "The One with Phoebe's Wedding", Phoebe and Mike's wedding is filled with chaos and unexpected turns of events. The episode, which first aired on February 12, 2004, is the twelfth episode of the tenth and final season of the beloved American sitcom, Friends.

Phoebe initially faces a challenge as her stepfather is unable to secure a day release from prison to walk her down the aisle. She asks Joey to take his place, and he wholeheartedly accepts, treating the role with utmost seriousness. Meanwhile, Monica's meticulous and over-the-top wedding planning drives Phoebe insane, as she had envisioned a more low-key and simple ceremony. At the rehearsal dinner, Phoebe becomes upset with Monica for her perfectionism and insistence on a spotless event, even if it means rushing Phoebe and compromising her wishes. This leads to a tense moment where Phoebe fires Monica on the spot.

The next day, Phoebe struggles to manage the wedding planning herself, facing various challenges and feeling overwhelmed. Chandler and Ross, realizing they are not part of the wedding party, express their disappointment to Phoebe, who reassures them they were next in line. When one of Mike's groomsmen drops out, Phoebe is tasked with choosing a replacement, a decision she passes to Rachel as a "bridesmaid job". Rachel's inability to decide between Ross and Chandler leads to Mike making a unique choice—he decides that his dog, Chappy, will be the missing groomsman.

As the wedding day arrives, a giant blizzard causes major disruptions, cutting off the band and the photographer. Despite the challenges, Phoebe and Mike remain determined to get married. They opt for a simple wedding service outside Central Perk, surrounded by a beautiful snow-covered street. With the snow creating difficulties for Chappy, Ross and Chandler volunteer to hold him during the ceremony, with Ross getting the role due to Chandler's fear of dogs. The minister is also snowed in, so Joey steps in to officiate the wedding, having been previously ordained. Chandler walks Phoebe down the aisle, and despite the freezing temperature, she refuses to wear a coat, choosing to be her "something blue".

The wedding proceeds with Phoebe and Mike exchanging their vows. Joey, ever mindful of Chappy's well-being, ends the ceremony early when Ross warns him about the dog's slowing heart rate. Phoebe and Mike are pronounced husband and wife, and in a sweet moment, Mike offers his jacket to a cold Phoebe, keeping her warm.

The episode, filled with humour and emotion, showcases the love and support of friends coming together to celebrate Phoebe and Mike's special day, even amidst the chaos and unexpected twists.

Monica's wedding planning upsets Phoebe

In the episode "The One with Phoebe's Wedding", Monica's intense wedding planning upsets Phoebe, who wants a more low-key ceremony. Monica, in her role as wedding planner, barks orders in a military style, complete with a headset. This causes tension between the two friends, as Phoebe feels rushed and overwhelmed by Monica's meticulous planning and desire for perfection.

The episode begins with Phoebe informing Joey that her stepfather is unable to attend the wedding due to being in prison. She asks Joey to walk her down the aisle, and he enthusiastically agrees. However, his behaviour becomes tense and strange towards the rest of the group.

At the rehearsal dinner, Chandler and Ross discover they are not part of the wedding party, and they complain to Phoebe, who tells them they were next in line. When one of Mike's groomsmen drops out, Phoebe is tasked with choosing a replacement, but she passes this responsibility to Rachel, describing it as a "bridesmaid job".

During a rehearsal toast, Phoebe becomes upset with Monica for her overbearing planning and expresses her desire for a simpler wedding. This leads to a heated moment where Phoebe fires Monica as her wedding planner. The next day, Phoebe struggles to manage the wedding planning herself, facing challenges such as misplaced items and unfamiliar flower names.

Realising the difficulty of planning a wedding, Phoebe rehires Monica, acknowledging her need for Monica's organisational skills. However, a giant blizzard causes major disruptions, including cutting off the band and the photographer. Despite the challenges, Phoebe and Mike decide to proceed with a simple wedding ceremony outside Central Perk, surrounded by a small group of their closest friends.

The episode highlights the differences between Phoebe's laid-back personality and Monica's meticulous planning style, ultimately leading to a heartwarming conclusion as the friends adapt to the unexpected challenges and come together to celebrate Phoebe and Mike's wedding.

Phoebe fires Monica

In the episode "The One with Phoebe's Wedding", Monica—in her role as wedding planner—drives Phoebe crazy with her meticulous planning and need for perfection. Monica's behaviour is so overbearing that Phoebe eventually fires her.

Monica's planning style is at odds with Phoebe's vision for a simple wedding. Monica barks orders in a military style, complete with a headset. She rushes Phoebe and insists on everything being spotlessly perfect, even if no one else likes it. This causes tension between the two friends, culminating in Phoebe firing Monica during the rehearsal dinner.

Phoebe soon realises the challenges of wedding planning and rehires Monica, acknowledging her desire for Monica to be her "crazy bitch" again.

The episode also reveals a mystery surrounding one of Phoebe's bridesmaids. A dark-haired woman in a fluffy pink coat stands out as a possible roommate, Denise, or Mike's sister.

Despite the challenges, Phoebe and Mike's wedding goes ahead in a simple ceremony outside Central Perk, with Monica's blessing.

Phoebe rehires Monica

In the episode "The One with Phoebe's Wedding", Monica is driving Phoebe crazy with her intense wedding planning. Phoebe wants a more low-key ceremony, but Monica is barking orders in a military style, complete with a headset. At the rehearsal dinner, Phoebe gets upset with Monica for rushing her and making everything perfect, even if no one is enjoying it. This causes Phoebe to snap and fire Monica.

The next day, Phoebe is overwhelmed with all the wedding planning and realises Monica's job is not easy. Ice sculptures are turning up, and she doesn't know the technical name for orchids. She also has to deal with Chandler and Ross, who are upset about not being part of the wedding party. When one of Mike's groomsmen can't make it, Phoebe passes the job of choosing his replacement to Rachel. After both Chandler and Ross plead with Rachel to choose them, Mike decides to have his dog, Chappy, as the missing groomsman.

Realising that planning a wedding is harder than she thought, Phoebe gives in and rehires Monica, asking her to be the "Crazy Bitch" again. Monica takes on the task with relish, organising everything at short notice.

Phoebe's third bridesmaid

In the episode "The One with Phoebe's Wedding", Monica is one of Phoebe's bridesmaids, alongside Rachel. However, there is a third mystery bridesmaid who has never been acknowledged by the show. This woman has dark hair and is seen wearing a fluffy pink coat.

A popular fan theory suggests that the third bridesmaid could be Denise, Phoebe's roommate. In a Season 6 episode, Phoebe gets upset because the others don't remember Denise. When Chandler asks how they could have a roommate that none of them know, Phoebe replies, \"Maybe because you never listen to anything that I say. Denise!\"

While some fans have speculated that the woman could be Mike's sister, many are convinced that it is Denise, and the TikTok video sharing this theory has received over 1 million views.

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