Deborah Chan
Many couples nowadays prefer to receive cash over gifts at their weddings. A wedding wishing well is a box where guests can deposit cash gifts for the newly married couple. It's a convenient and tidy way to accept money and cards from guests. When it comes to wedding invitations, it can be tricky to know how to ask for money instead of gifts. To avoid offending anyone, couples often include a separate card in the same envelope as the invite, explaining their gift preferences. This card may feature a poem or a polite message, making it clear that monetary gifts are not mandatory.
| Characteristics | Values |
|---|---|
| Wording | It is important to use polite, friendly, and non-pushy wording to ask for money instead of gifts. It should be made clear that monetary gifts are not mandatory. |
| Format | The request for a wishing well can be included in the invitation or printed on a separate notelet or slip of paper. |
| Timing | It is best to decide on the wording before designing the invitations. |
What You'll Learn
Wishing well wording
The following are some ways to politely ask your guests for money instead of gifts, without causing offence.
Simple Wishing Well Wording
Your presence at our wedding is a gift in itself. However, if you would like to contribute to our future together as a couple, a wishing well will be available at our reception.
Your gift of love and support is all we need on our special day. However, if you would like to give a gift, we will have a wishing well at our reception.
We are blessed to not only have each other, but the guests who will make our wedding day so special. We’d rather not receive gifts, but if you’d like to contribute to our wedding and our future together, we will have a wishing well at our reception to which you can contribute.
Playful Poems Wishing Well Wording
Your love and laughter at our wedding is all we truly need.
But a wishing well contribution will be warmly received.
Your presence at our wedding is present enough, so don't worry about gifts, we have plenty of stuff.
However, if you were thinking of helping us on our way, some money towards our honeymoon would truly make our day.
We'll remember your kindness wherever we roam, before we settle down and build a home.
Thank you for sharing our special day, and helping us on our journey in every way.
We’re simply so grateful for your presence here, to celebrate our love and cheer.
As we begin our journey anew, we’ll cherish your friendship into our future, too.
If you’d like to contribute to our wishing well, however, you’ll help us create memories tonight and forever.
Whether big or small, it's the thought that counts, and we'll be thankful for every penny that amounts.
Thank you for your love, support, and care. Mostly it means the world that on our day you were there.
Purposeful Wishing Well Wording
Your presence on our wedding day is the most special gift we could possibly ask for. However, if you do wish to bless us and contribute to our future together, we are saving for our new home. A wishing well will be present at our reception.
#1 We’re thrilled that you’re able to make it to our wedding - that’s more than enough for us. However, if you would like to bring us something, spending money for our honeymoon would be most appreciated.
#2 Your presence on our wedding day is the best gift of all, but if you would like to help us create special memories on our honeymoon, we've set up a wishing well where you can contribute to our honeymoon fund.
We are thrilled to celebrate our special day with all of our loved ones. And of all gifts you could bring, your presence is the most cherished. However, if you would like to contribute to our wedding costs, we will have a wishing well set up at our reception. We appreciate your love and support and can't wait to create unforgettable memories together on our wedding day.
Formal Wishing Well Wording
While your presence on our wedding day is a cherished gift, we understand some guests like to offer more. In lieu of a traditional gift, we would be grateful for a monetary contribution towards our life together. If you would like to participate, you can leave your donation and well wishes in our wishing well, which will be available at our reception.
As we embark on this new chapter of our lives, we are grateful for the love and support of our family and friends. If you feel inclined to contribute to our wedding costs and the beginning of this next step in our lives together, we have set up a wishing well where you can leave your well wishes and support. No matter how big or small, your generosity is greatly appreciated.
Casual Wishing Well Wording
No gifts are necessary — we just want to see you! If you do wish to give us a little something, a little cash to spend on our honeymoon (or our new home) would be very much appreciated.
We can't imagine our wedding day without having all our loved ones here to celebrate with us. We know some of you have come from far and wide, and we're so grateful for the effort you've taken. If you'd like to give a little something extra to help start our journey on the right foot, we've got a wishing well set up where you can drop your cash and loving messages. Thank you all for being a part of our day.
We don't need big presents, just the presence of our loved ones. However, if you would like to contribute to our honeymoon (or future home), we have a wishing well set up at our reception.
Having you all with us on our special day is a dream come true. We're so grateful for the effort you've taken to be here. If you'd like to give a little something extra to help start our journey on the right foot, we will have a wishing well set up where you can drop any cash you’d like to contribute.
Traditional Wishing Well Wording
The greatest gift to us both is that you can be present at our wedding. If you would like to contribute to our new married life, we will have a wishing well on the day.
Celebration Wishing Well Wording
We can’t wait to celebrate with you! If you wish to help us celebrate with a gift, you can give to our wishing well.
Fun Wishing Well Wording
If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way, a donation towards our wishing well would really make our day.
Gentle Wishing Well Wording
We don’t expect you to give us a gift, however, if you would like to, a small financial contribution would be wonderful to go towards setting up our new life together.
Upbeat Wishing Well Wording
To save you the fuss of shopping and buying, here is an idea we hope you’ll like trying; a wishing well we thought would be great, but only if you wish to participate.
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Wishing well poems
Wishing wells are a common feature at weddings, with nearly 90% of couples already living together before marriage and having their homes already set up with the items they need. They are a great way for guests to contribute to the couple's dreams and next life stage, be it a honeymoon fund, a house deposit, or even a shopping spree for unique household items.
Poem 1
> Our two families have come together as one.
> We really hope you can join in the fun.
> A wishing well we thought would be great,
> but only if you wish to participate.
> A gift of money is placed in the well,
> then make a special wish, but do not tell!
> Please do not be offended by our request,
> as our day is complete having you as a guest.
Poem 2
> If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way,
> A gift of cash towards our house would really make our day.
> However, if you prefer a gift,
> feel free to surprise us in your own special way.
Poem 3
> If finding a gift is hard to do,
> Perhaps our wishing well is for you.
> A gift of money is placed in the well,
> Then make a wish… but do not tell.
> If, however, a gift you’d prefer to find,
> Be assured we will not mind.
Poem 4
> We don’t want to offend, but we have it all,
> household goods, and so much more
> To save you shopping, looking and buying,
> a gift of currency, we thought you’d like trying.
> Don’t go overboard, or rob any banks,
> anything will make us smile, with hearts full of thanks.
> Now that we have saved you all the fuss,
> we hope you will come and celebrate with us.
Poem 5
> We’re on our way to [destination] for a romantic honeymoon,
> A holiday for us to share that hasn’t come too soon.
> So, if you’re thinking of a gift and you’re not sure what to get,
> A gift of cash would help us most to get us on that jet.
> But most of all, we’d love you there on our special date,
> To share with us our happiness and help us celebrate.
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Etiquette and wording
Asking for money instead of gifts can be a tricky area to navigate, and it's important to get the wording right so as not to offend your guests. Here are some tips and examples to help you craft the perfect message for your wedding invitations:
Be Diplomatic
It can be uncomfortable asking guests for money, so many couples opt for wishing well poems as a gentle way to make the request. These poems vary in length and tone, with some taking a humorous approach and others being more direct. Remember, it's important to make it clear that monetary gifts are not mandatory and that you are simply making a request, not demanding cash.
Emphasise Your Guests' Presence
A great way to soften the request for money is by emphasising that their presence at your wedding is the most important gift of all. Here are some examples:
> "Your presence at our wedding is a gift in itself. However, if you would like to contribute to our future together as a couple, a wishing well will be available at our reception."
> "Your presence on our wedding day is the most special gift we could possibly ask for. However, if you do wish to bless us and contribute to our future together, we are saving for our new home. A wishing well will be present at our reception."
Be Honest and Open
Explain to your guests why you are requesting money instead of gifts. Are you saving for a house deposit, a honeymoon, or perhaps you already have most household items? Here are some examples:
> "We don't need big presents, just the presence of our loved ones. However, if you would like to contribute to our honeymoon, we have a wishing well set up at our reception."
> "We know gifts create a bit of a fuss, so rest assured your presence is your present to us. But if you simply can't resist, our wishing well should assist. Into the well goes a little cash, which we will add to our honeymoon stash."
Provide Alternative Options
If you are uncomfortable with the idea of asking for money directly, you can provide guests with alternative options, such as a gift registry or the option to surprise you with a gift of their choosing. Here is an example:
> "If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way, a contribution towards our honeymoon would really make our day. However, if you prefer a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own special way."
Keep it Simple
If you don't want to include a poem or a long message, you can keep it simple and straightforward. Here is an example:
> "Instead of gifts, if you would like to wish us well, feel free to add to our wishing well."
Get Creative with Wording
Using creative and well-expressed phrases can help take the edge off the request. Here are some examples:
> "To save you the fuss of shopping and buying, here is an idea we hope you'll like trying; a wishing well we thought would be great, but only if you wish to participate."
> "We truly appreciate your presence at our wedding and do not expect gifts. However, those who would like to honour us with a gift and are looking for inspiration can visit: www.registry.com."
Remember, it's important to choose wording that reflects your personality and style as a couple. You can also include a decorative sign at the wedding venue to provide more information about the wishing well and to direct guests to where they can leave their contributions.
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Wishing well wording samples
Simple Wishing Well Wording
Your presence at our wedding is a gift in itself. However, if you would like to contribute to our future together as a couple, a wishing well will be available at our reception.
Your gift of love and support is all we need on our special day. However, if you would like to give a gift, we will have a wishing well at our reception.
We are blessed to not only have each other but the guests who will make our wedding day so special. We’d rather not receive gifts, but if you’d like to contribute to our wedding and our future together, we will have a wishing well at our reception to which you can contribute.
Playful Poems Wishing Well Wording
Your love and laughter at our wedding are all we truly need.
But a wishing well contribution will be warmly received.
Your presence at our wedding is present enough, so don't worry about gifts, we have plenty of stuff.
However, if you were thinking of helping us on our way, some money towards our honeymoon would truly make our day.
We'll remember your kindness wherever we roam, before we settle down and build a home.
Thank you for sharing our special day, and helping us on our journey in every way.
We’re simply so grateful for your presence here, to celebrate our love and cheer.
As we begin our journey anew, we’ll cherish your friendship into our future, too.
If you’d like to contribute to our wishing well, however, you’ll help us create memories tonight and forever.
Whether big or small, it's the thought that counts, and we'll be thankful for every penny that amounts.
Thank you for your love, support, and care. Mostly it means the world that on our day you were there.
Purposeful Wishing Well Wording
Your presence on our wedding day is the most special gift we could possibly ask for. However, if you do wish to bless us and contribute to our future together, we are saving for our new home. A wishing well will be present at our reception.
#1 We’re thrilled that you’re able to make it to our wedding - that’s more than enough for us. However, if you would like to bring us something, spending money for our honeymoon would be most appreciated.
#2 Your presence on our wedding day is the best gift of all, but if you would like to help us create special memories on our honeymoon, we've set up a wishing well where you can contribute to our honeymoon fund.
We are thrilled to celebrate our special day with all of our loved ones. And of all gifts you could bring, your presence is the most cherished. However, if you would like to contribute to our wedding costs, we will have a wishing well set up at our reception. We appreciate your love and support and can't wait to create unforgettable memories together on our wedding day.
Formal Wishing Well Wording
While your presence on our wedding day is a cherished gift, we understand some guests like to offer more. In lieu of a traditional gift, we would be grateful for a monetary contribution towards our life together. If you would like to participate, you can leave your donation and well wishes in our wishing well, which will be available at our reception.
As we embark on this new chapter of our lives, we are grateful for the love and support of our family and friends. If you feel inclined to contribute to our wedding costs and the beginning of this next step in our lives together, we have set up a wishing well where you can leave your well wishes and support. No matter how big or small, your generosity is greatly appreciated.
Casual Wishing Well Wording
No gifts are necessary — we just want to see you! If you do wish to give us a little something, a little cash to spend on our honeymoon (or our new home) would be very much appreciated.
We can't imagine our wedding day without having all our loved ones here to celebrate with us. We know some of you have come from far and wide, and we're so grateful for the effort you've taken. If you'd like to give a little something extra to help start our journey on the right foot, we've got a wishing well set up where you can drop your cash and loving messages. Thank you all for being a part of our day.
We don't need big presents, just the presence of our loved ones. However, if you would like to contribute to our honeymoon (or future home), we have a wishing well set up at our reception.
Having you all with us on our special day is a dream come true. We're so grateful for the effort you've taken to be here. If you'd like to give a little something extra to help start our journey on the right foot, we will have a wishing well set up where you can drop any cash you’d like to contribute.
Traditional Wishing Well Wording
The greatest gift to us both is that you can be present at our wedding. If you would like to contribute to our new married life, we will have a wishing well on the day.
Celebration Wishing Well Wording
We can’t wait to celebrate with you! If you wish to help us celebrate with a gift, you can give to our wishing well.
Fun Wishing Well Wording
If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way, a donation towards our wishing well would really make our day.
Gentle Wishing Well Wording
We don’t expect you to give us a gift, however, if you would like to, a small financial contribution would be wonderful to go towards setting up our new life together.
Upbeat Wishing Well Wording
To save you the fuss of shopping and buying, here is an idea we hope you’ll like trying; a wishing well we thought would be great, but only if you wish to participate.
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How to notify your guests
Asking for money instead of gifts can be a tricky business, but there are ways to do it politely and with tact. Here are some suggestions on how to notify your guests about your preference for monetary gifts:
- Traditional approach: Emphasize that their presence at your wedding is the greatest gift you could ask for. Then, gently mention that if they would like to contribute something more, you will have a wishing well set up on the day.
- Celebratory tone: Let your guests know how excited you are to celebrate with them. You can then mention that if they wish to bring a gift, they can contribute to your wishing well.
- Fun and playful: This approach light-heartedly acknowledges the potential difficulty of choosing a gift. You can say something like, "If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way, a donation towards our wishing well would really make our day."
- Gentle request: With this approach, you can express that you don't expect gifts but that a small financial contribution would be appreciated as you start your new life together.
- Simple and direct: You can simply state that instead of gifts, guests are welcome to add to your wishing well if they wish to do so.
- Upbeat and cheerful: This approach aims to save your guests from the hassle of shopping. For example, "To save you the fuss of shopping and buying, here is an idea we hope you'll like trying; a wishing well we thought would be great, but only if you wish to participate."
Remember, it's essential to make it clear that monetary gifts are not mandatory and that you are merely expressing your preference. You can also include a separate card with your invitation, known as a "note on gifts," to provide more detailed information about your wishes.
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