Groom's Guide To Wedding Planning: Get Involved

Wedding planning is often seen as a task for the bride, but it doesn't have to be this way. It's not wrong for a man to want to be involved in the wedding planning, and it can be helpful for the bride if the groom shares the workload. If your partner is reluctant to get involved, try talking about the wedding as our wedding and get him thinking about what he wants the big day to look like. Discussing the budget is also a good way to get him involved, as is asking him to help with tasks that play to his strengths.

Start a conversation about the wedding to get him interested in the planning

Wedding planning is often seen as a woman's job, but it's important to remember that you and your partner are a team, and you should make decisions together. Sometimes, simply starting a conversation about the wedding is enough to get your fiancé interested in the planning. Refer to your wedding as "our wedding" to let him know that he plays a big part in making it happen. This will get him thinking about what he wants the big day to look like.

If talking about the wedding doesn't get him excited, talking about money might. If you're both paying for the wedding or getting help from your parents, discussing the budget is crucial. The more excited he gets about the wedding, the more inclined he'll be to help with the planning.

It's also important to remember that there are no gender roles when it comes to wedding planning. You and your partner should do what's best for the two of you, regardless of what other people think.

Talk about the budget

Wedding planning is a team effort, and it's not weird for a guy to want to be involved. It's important to start a conversation about the wedding and refer to it as "our wedding" to get your partner thinking about what he wants the big day to look like. Talking about money and the budget is also crucial, especially if you're both paying for the wedding or receiving financial help from your parents.

Discussing the budget is an essential part of wedding planning. It's important to be open and honest about how much money you're willing and able to spend on the wedding. If you're both contributing financially, it's only fair that you both have a say in how the money is spent. Start by creating a list of all the expenses, from the venue and catering to smaller details like decorations and favours. Be realistic about how much things will cost and don't forget to include any hidden costs, like service charges or gratuities.

Once you have a clear idea of the overall cost, you can start allocating funds to different areas. Decide together which aspects of the wedding are most important to you and allocate more money to those areas. For example, if you're foodies, you might want to splurge on a gourmet meal, or if you love music, you could hire a live band.

It's also a good idea to set aside a contingency fund for any unexpected expenses that may arise. This will give you peace of mind and ensure that you don't go over budget. If you're receiving financial help from family members, be sure to include them in these conversations and get their input on how the money should be spent.

Remember, the budget is not set in stone, and it's okay to make adjustments along the way. Wedding planning can be stressful, but by talking openly about the budget and working together, you can ensure that your big day is everything you both want it to be.

Make it clear that it's our wedding

It's important to make it clear that it's your wedding too. Start a conversation about the wedding and refer to it as "our wedding" to let your partner know that you want to be involved in the planning. Talking about the budget is also a good way to get your partner interested in the planning process, as it's likely to be an important topic for both of you.

If your community tends to stick to extremely strong gender roles, it might be a bit of a shock to them that you want to be involved in the wedding planning. But remember, you and your partner are a team, and you should make the best choices for the two of you, regardless of what other people think. It's a lot of work to plan a wedding, and sharing the burden can help to avoid putting too much strain and pressure on one person.

Explain that it's a lot of work to plan a wedding

Wedding planning is a lot of work, so it's important that both partners are involved in the process. It's not just about the event planning, which can be enjoyable, but the emotional work that comes with it. Any issues that have been kept under the rug get aired out – estranged family, personal insecurities, jealousy between friends, the politics of keeping two families involved and informed while also at arm's length. It can be exhausting!

On top of that, there are the appointments. For each vendor, you have to work in multiple Zoom or phone calls into your week. If the vendor maintains normal business hours, then these calls have to be fit into your normal work hours.

It's also important to talk about money. Assuming that you’re both paying for the wedding or getting help from your parents, talking about the budget is crucial.

The more excited your partner gets about the wedding, the more inclined he’ll be to help with the planning. Simply starting a conversation is enough to get him interested. Refer to your nuptials as 'our wedding' so it subconsciously lets him know that he plays a huge part in making this wedding happen.

Discuss gender roles and expectations

Wedding planning is often seen as a task for the woman, with many men believing their job is to propose and then leave the rest to their partner. However, this is a stereotype and it is not wrong for men to want to be involved in the wedding planning. In fact, many women would love to have their fiancé involved, as it is a lot of work to plan a wedding alone.

Starting a conversation about the wedding is a good way to get a man involved in the planning. Referring to the wedding as "our wedding" can help to subconsciously let him know that he plays a big part in making the day happen. Talking about the budget is also a good way to get him involved, as it is an important aspect of the planning process that he will likely have opinions on.

It is important to remember that a wedding is a team effort and that gender roles should not dictate who does what. The couple should make the best choices for themselves, regardless of what other people think. Unfortunately, some communities still stick to extremely strong gender roles, which can make it difficult for men to feel comfortable being involved in the wedding planning process.

However, it is important for men to be involved in the planning, as it can show that they care about the marriage, not just the wedding day itself. It can also help to reduce the strain and pressure on the woman, who may otherwise feel like she is going into the marriage with a one-sided desire to make it work.

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