Planning Your Own Wedding Shower: A Bride's Guide

While it's not uncommon for brides to plan their own wedding showers, it's not traditional to do so. Wedding showers are usually thrown by the bridesmaids, maid of honour, a close friend, or a close female relative. However, some brides do plan their own showers to ensure they get exactly what they want.

The bride's input into the bridal shower

While it is not traditional for brides to plan their own wedding shower, many modern brides are choosing to do so. Some brides are keen to plan their own showers because they want to ensure they get exactly what they want, while others want to guarantee that all their VIP guests can attend.

Brides who plan their own showers may want to consider asking their maid of honour, bridesmaids, close friends or family members to host the event. It is also important to plan the shower well in advance to ensure that all the bride's most important guests can attend.

When it comes to the bride's input into the bridal shower, she may want to give her maid of honour an idea of the kind of vibe she wants, such as a "laid-back brunch". The bride can also provide a guest list and approve a guest count with the host.

Some brides may also want to plan the games and decor for the shower, while others may prefer to leave these details to the host. Ultimately, the bride's input into the bridal shower will vary depending on her personal preferences and the level of involvement she wants to have in the planning process.

Who should host the bridal shower

While there is no fixed rule on who should host the bridal shower, it is often thrown by the bridesmaids, the maid of honour, a close friend, or close female relatives or family friends.

Some brides do plan their own bridal showers, but this is generally frowned upon. One source says that brides who plan their own showers are often seen as "demanding, tantrumming little dictators". However, some brides do give their maid of honour an idea of the "vibe" they want, and the guest list.

One source says that the "no mothers involved" rule is outdated, as many brides don't live with their families before they get married.

The 'no mothers involved' rule

While it is not uncommon for brides to plan their own wedding showers, it is generally considered rude to do so. Wedding showers are traditionally thrown by the bridesmaids, maid of honour, a close friend, or close female relatives or family friends. The mother of the bride is not usually involved in planning the wedding shower, as it is considered a gift-grabbing opportunity. However, the mother of the groom can be involved.

The "no mothers involved" rule is considered outdated by some, especially since many brides no longer live with their families before getting married. In some cases, the mother of the bride may be involved in planning a bridal luncheon, which is about honouring the bridesmaids and is often a relaxing, intimate time before the wedding weekend.

The guest list

It's also worth noting that, traditionally, the wedding shower is thrown by the bridesmaids, the maid of honour, a close friend, or close female relatives or family friends. However, some brides do plan their own wedding showers, although this is considered rude by some.

Etiquette

Traditionally, the bridal shower is thrown by the bridesmaids, maid of honour, a close friend, or close female relatives or family friends. The bride's mother should not throw the bridal shower. The bride should not throw the shower for herself, as it is considered rude and demanding. However, the bride can give input on the guest list, the date, and the vibe of the party. For example, one bride mentioned that she wanted a "laid-back brunch" vibe for her bridal shower.

Some brides may not have their mothers or close female relatives involved in the wedding planning process, especially if they live far away. In this case, it may be acceptable for the mother or mother-in-law to be involved in planning the bridal shower.

It is important to plan the bridal shower far enough in advance to ensure that all of the bride's VIP guests can attend. If there are many out-of-town guests, some people choose to have the bridal shower on the same weekend as the bachelorette party to ensure that the largest number of people can attend both events.

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